A Million Reasons

When there seems to be a million reasons why you should make a certain decision, but do you really need more than one?

If you do, is it imperative that you communicate *all the reasons?

No.

It can be tempting to say “because..” again and again, filling the uncomfortable space and time in limbo by listing everything you came up with. Valid reasons I’m sure, but what is more effective? What is a stronger position?

Stating very directly your decision or intention and then PAUSING.

The truth is, no matter how hard we try, we cannot predict nor control someone’s reaction to what we say to them. It is extremely difficult to pull back and WAIT. PAUSE.

It’s uncomfortable.

So, we tend to fill that void. Continue naming excuses, and while they are a plentiful, it isn’t necessary.

A clearer, more concise statement will win the communication game every time.

Do they really need to know that in addition to your work hours shifting that your family dog just died and your rent got raised and and and… there is always stuff going on that adds pressure and builds on top of existing issues and situations. It’s how life works.

My challenge for you is to focus on clear, direct, concise communication.

Clear is kind.

Agree?

Thanks for reading.

-A